MISS CALPERNIA ADDAMS
Stumbled across this interesting website of the transsexual actress and former Nashville drag performer Calpernia Addams, who shot to fame as the real life girlfriend of the murdered soldier who inspired the Showtime film SOLDIER'S GIRL. I've never met her, but when I perfromed in Nashville 3 years ago, she was spoken of in hushed, reverent tones as the local girl who made it. She moved to LA and played in a 2004 all transsexual version of THE VAGINA MONOLOGUES. Would love to have seen that one! Monologues about vaginas by men who paid for them! I mean for their own. OK, trans-people, I know that was a cheap one, but this is the place. Calpernai is single and encourages folks to drop her a note (I need to add that tomy site!) and even includes a sassy list of BAD QUESTIONS which should not be asked. Like:
3. What is/was your "real" name? What was your "old" name? - This one is a biggie. My real name is Calpernia Addams. What are you really asking here? Think about it. Most people ask this because:
They don't "really" consider me a woman, and while they're willing to humor me by calling me Calpernia, they want the "truth" about who I am
They "really" consider my current identity to be a fabrication
They want to have something they can hold onto and "prove" that I'm "really" something other than what I seem. People use old names to hurt and control women who have transitioned, mocking them and using the name to keep them in their place.
At best, it's a rude question, and although you may be morbidly curious, don't ask. There are things I wonder about you that I don't ask, trust me.
But everyone knows that Marilyn Monroe's old/real name was Norma Jean! What's the difference? Revealing Marilyn's birth name doesn't do anything to change her core human attributes in a person's mind. She's still a woman by either name. Revealing the birth-assigned name of a person who has transitioned immediately invalidates or questions their gender to the average person.
Calpernia also has a fun blog which details her various acting gigs (she played the tranny fiddler in TRANSAMERICA) so check her out at CALPERNIA.COM